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Ummul Mominin Ummu Habibah (radhiallaho anha) was previously married to Ubeidullah-bin-jahash. She emigrated with her husband to Abyssinia. The husband turned renegade and died there as Kafir. The Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) sent his offer to marry her through King Negus while she was still passing her days of solitude in Abyssinia. She accepted the offer and came to Medina to live with the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam). During the period of truce between the Muslims and the idolaters of Mecca her father Abu Sufyan once come to Medina for negotiations on connection with reinforcing the truce. He went to see Ummu Habibah. As he was about to sit on the bedding in her room she removed it from under him. He was surprised over her behavior and said:" Was the bedding unfit for me or I unfit for the bedding ?"

She Replied:"This bedding is meant for the dear and Holy Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) while you are an idolator and therefore unclean. How can I allow you to sit on this bedding ?"

Abu Sufyan was full of grief and remarked: "Since you left us you have developed did manners."

In the face of the great reverence that she had for the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) she could not tolerate an unclean Mushrik (though the be her own father) to sit on the Prophet's bedding.

Once she came to know about the virtues of twelve Rakaats of Chasht. Since that time she had been saying this Salat regularly.

Her father Abu Sufyan later embraced Islam. On the Third day of his death she sent for some perfume and used it saying:" I neither need nor like the perfume. I have heard the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) saying, ' A women is not permitted to mourn the death of any person (except her husband's) for more than three days. (The mourning period in case of husband's death is however four months and ten days.) I am using the perfume simply to show that I am not mourning the death of my father any longer."

When she was about to die she sent for Aishah (radhiallaho anha) and said: " We have been rivals in sharing the love of the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam):  It is just possible that we might have offended each other. I forgive you. Please forgive me too."

Aishah said:  " I forgive you by all means. May Allah forgive you too."

She remarked:   " O, Aishah you have made me very happy. May Allah keep you happy."

Similarly, she sent for Ummu Salamh (radhiallaho anha) and secured her forgiveness.

The tension between the two rival wives is natural and proverbial. Ummu Habibah wanted to be forgive by people before she appeared before Allah. Her reverence and love for the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) can be judged from her behavior towards her own father.